His Diary/Her Diary and the different way men and women think.

Her Diary:

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird.  We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner.  I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late but he made no comment on it.  Conversation wasn’t flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk.  He agreed but he didn’t say much.  I asked him what was wrong. He said “Nothing”.  I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me and not to worry about it.  One the way home, I told him that I loved him.  He smiled slightly and kept driving.  I can’t explain his behavior.  I don’t know why he didn’t say “I love you too”.  When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.  He just sat there quietly and watched TV.  He continued to seem distant and absent.  Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed.  About 15 minutes later, he came to bed.  But I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else.  He fell asleep.  I cried.   I don’t know what to do.  I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.  My life is a disaster.

His Diary:

Motorcycle won’t start…can’t figure out why.

Ok…first, this is great! LOL. But aside from that (and yes, it is a bit extreme), there is an important point to learn from this…Men and Women Think Differently and if you want a satisfying relationship, both need to understand this, both need to understand how the other tends to think (Personal life experiences will shape how your interpret and react to events occuring in your life.) and both need to be willing to talk about what they (themselves) are thinking and what the other is thinking.

Men…don’t roll your eyes at this.  Need I have to remind you that women bring SO much to our lives.  Men need to talk more about what they are thinking and feeling to their women.

Women…monitor or check the degree of emotionality in your thinking.  If you listen to communication experts, they suggest women need to stop making assumptions about what is going on with their men, ask suscient questions, accept that, as a whole, we are quieter than women and can become obsessed about things that have absolutely nothing to do with you (our women) or our relationship with you and which makes no sense to you at all…the fact that our motorcycle doesn’t start…it started last summer….

Obviously, this is not a solution to all relationship problems but I do see the principles of this cartoon get played out in my office enough for me to keep this cartoon on hand for couples to read and discuss.

More later…