Manners for Young Men

I have developed a series of groups to each young men (between the ages of 13 and 17) manners.

There are three groups:  General Manners, Relationship Manners and Advanced Manners.  Each group will meet for six 1 1/2 hour sessions.  They will meet in the mornings, during the summer.  Groups will be limited to approximately 6-8 members.  The young man and his parent(s) will be required to come in for a 1/2 hour meeting before they are allowed to start the group.  During this meeting, they will sign paperwork, go over rules/expectations, etc.  When I have 6-8 young men signed up for a particular group, I will start the group.  The cost is $125.00 for a group/six session or $375.00 for all three groups.

The topics of the General Manners Group is as follows:

• Use of Please, Thank You, Miss, Mr., Yes, No
• Holding the Door
• Shaking Hands
• Introducing your Friends to Parents/Others
• How to Talk/Listen to Adults
• Knowing When to Talk and When to Not Talk
• Asking Permission
• Paying/Receiving a Compliment
• Making/Accepting an Apology
• Accepting a Gift, Especially One You Don’t Like
• Phone/Electronics Etiquette at Home/in Public
• Talking to Parents/Teachers vs. Friends
• Dressing for Home vs Being in Public
• Dialing a Wrong Number
• Starting/Ending a Call
• Use of the Bathroom

Topics for the Relationship Manners Group:

• Women in General: Emotional/Logical Perspective, How Women and Men are Socialized Differently in our Society and it’s Impact on Relationships, Direct vs Indirect Power in Relationships, Sexual Urges and Respect for Yourself/Her in a Girlfriend Relationship, Her Period
• Walking with Her
• Offering Help
• How to Talk to a Young Woman
• Asking for/Declining a Date
• Asking for a (Slow) Dance
• Breaking Up
• Apologizing
• Apologizing When You Feel You Did Nothing Wrong
• Identifying/Addressing Your Own Feelings
• Listening to Her (Listening or Making Suggestions to Solve Her Problem)
• What to do When She is Mad at You
• Fighting: What to Do, What Not to Do
• Gifts/Dates
• Disagreeing on an Issue

Topics for the Advanced Manners Group:

• Tying a Tie
• Ironing a Shirt/Pants
• Polishing Shoes
• Hygiene: Finger/Toe Nails, Cologne, Breath, Shaving, Deodorant
• Washing/Drying Laundry
• Restaurant Etiquette

For more information or to register, please call Esselman Counseling Services at 217-224-5273.

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